When I want what they want

This affirmation, from Abraham-Hicks, may be a little difficult for me to post about. I will try to explain what it means to me.

If man understood that “what I create has nothing to do with what anybody else is creating” then he wouldn’t be so afraid of what others are doing.

— Abraham

Excerpted from the workshop in El Paso, TX on Saturday, November 14th, 1998 # 466

“What I create has nothing to do with what anybody else is creating.”  Can any of us say that?  As we are, in our frightened, hurt state, we have far too much invested in the world around us:  our family’s lives, our friends’ questions, the world’s anger and hatred and confusion.  I believe that we are tied in, because we’re afraid not to be tied in.  One of the ideas I’ve found helpful, though, is that this is a good place to consider the Four Agreements, by Don Miguel Ruiz.  They are:

  1. Be Impeccable with Your Word
  2. Don’t Take Anything Personally
  3. Don’t Make Assumptions
  4. Always Do Your Best

Obviously, Agreements #2 and #4 seem more openly related to discerning between what we are creating and what others are creating.  Let’s start with #2.

Taking things personally is part of what we humans do.

Carrying the heavy load of others’ opinions

Of course our focus is based in our beliefs about ourselves, and we often apply that focus to everyone and everything around us. “It must have to do with me, because everything I do does, and why would anyone else be different?”  I call this the center of the world approach.  I am not trying to judge, or to tell anyone that they shouldn’t think like this — everyone should think exactly what they want to think, and I’ve been the center of the world many, many times.  But if we insist that others’ words or actions are directed at us, personally, we will remain mired in the idea that we have lost at least a part of our control over our own lives.

Reacting to what others are saying, believing it applies to us, requires that we make a big assumption.  We assume that the other person is referring to us, but also that they can affect how we feel.  Our reaction to what we feel others are saying about us can turn us inside out, or at least that is what it did to me.  I was mortified if I thought someone was talking about me — afraid they would share some of the secrets I had hidden so deeply away, (which were living on my face most of the time, though I didn’t realize.)

I didn’t know my fear that clearly — I was so distraught that I couldn’t even analyze my own reaction.  But I know how terrified, and desperate I was.  I’m sure my friends and family must have thought I was losing my mind.  I was, I guess.

I have wandered away from the topic, but I can wrap back into it pretty smoothly. Just as I reacted to things others said, many of us, me included, are frightened that if someone accomplishes what we haven’t yet, we feel like there might not be an opportunity for us, to get what we want.  We can’t believe that the prosperity, or success, or joy, or love the other has called to themselves is also available to us.  We are, as a society, taught that everything in the world is win/lose — that if someone else achieves their goal(s), we must set higher goals, to try to win.  We are all in a race to get the prize before everybody else does.

Abraham is telling us that we can step out of that contest; that what another person calls to themselves does not affect our ability to call the same, or some other, circumstance to ourselves.  Everything is available to everyone in abundance; according to the Law of Attraction, all we need to do is decide what we want, and concentrate on that, and our Vibration will call the universe to provide that which we seek.

Believing others can take what it is you want, and keep it from you, will bring more sadness, distrust, feelings of loss.  Believing that others cannot take anything from you, that you can receive abundance, happiness, or success from the universe, will lead to satisfaction, a feeling of abundance, of joy, of success — and the knowledge that we can wish for people around us the same positive gifts we call to ourselves, with no worry that anyone will be left with too little.

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3 responses to “When I want what they want

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  2. you are phrophetic I am stunned sometime. Not because I don’t think you can be but because you have the courage to be so. Thats being creative and it having nothing to do with any one else.

    Kudos kid!

    • Thank you — I sometimes don’t even know what I’m going to write until it’s written. This is one I’ve thought a lot about, so my subconscious has been working on it for weeks. Thank you so much!

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